Whenever some mentions anal sex, there seems to be a big gasp as people start to go through their list of complaints: it is for the man’s benefit, not for the woman’s (Not true, if done correctly); it is illegal in many countries (True, but not as many as most people think); and some statistics about the spread of Sexually Transmitted Disease. However what few people accept is that lots of people are interested in it and often without any kind of guidelines. It is for those people that I wrote this guide, so they can an informed decision whether to include it in their sex lives or not:
Health Aspects of Anal Sex
Firstly there are a lot of health aspects that have to be considered. The bacteria in the anus should stay there. Therefore mixing anal and oral/ vaginal sex is a pretty easy way to become really ill.
Also the membrane in the anus is really thin, so care should be taken at all times. It can easily bleed too, which is one of the reasons why blood-borne STDs are more easily spread this way. Therefore it is vital to go slowly and use lots of lubrication for the whole process. You can almost not possibly use too much!
Is Anal Sex Pain Free?
This can be quite a tough one. Nothing is ever totally pain free (Even normal sex can hurt if she is not ready or you go too fast for her), however there are ways to make it as pain free as possible. If done correctly, it should be pleasurable for you AND her. This is because the anus is actually nerve-dense and is separated from pleasure zones such as the G-spot and AFE by a thin membrane. If treated right this can be a huge source of pleasure.
When women have a problem with anal sex it is usually either caused by an inconsiderate ex-boyfriend who did it wrong and hurt them in the process or a psychological problem caused by the idea of anal penetration. The key is to not bully her into it and take things at your own pace. Some women do not want to have anal and that should, of course, be respected.
Anal Sex: how to Do it Correctly
In this anal sex how to, I am going to really stress foreplay. As important as foreplay is for vaginal sex, it is even more important for anal sex. Also you will use as much lubrication as possible the whole way through.
It is best to bring her to a G-spot orgasm first. This will help her relax and have endorphins pumping. It will also make it easier to stimulate the sensitive zones anally and give her an anal orgasm. Then use a finger and gently insert it. If you are worried about bacteria, you can cut the finger off a plastic glove and use that as a kind of ‘condom.’ Take it slowly and do not try to rush her or go too fast. Calibrate everything carefully to her.
The next step is to slowly increase the size of insertion. At first you will want a thin, long sex toy. There are plenty of products available, just make sure it is designed for the purpose, preferably with a wide handle-like base at the bottom so that you have control over it at all times.
After this a larger butt plug should be used. Usually it will take two of even three to progress her to the point where you can penetrate her pain free. Always make sure you have a pre-agreed safe word just in case it is too much for her.
Pain free Anal Sex
The final part of this anal sex how to guide is about entering her. Ideally you will want her on all fours, with something supporting her torso. Then cover your condom with a lot of lubrication and go slowly, moving at her pace. If you did everything right and she is really turned on, anal orgasms are possible. This is the part where anal sex can be good for both of you.